When you’re feeling stuck.

lack of options | kourtney thomas fitness

People often ask me, how do you dig yourself out of being stuck? When you’re feeling uninspired and unmotivated, how to you reignite?

I find that’s there’s no universal answer.

I’ve started a blog about this, oh, I don’t know, 37 different times, but it just never quite turns out. Because we’re all way too diverse in our motivations. We’re all very distinct in personality. We’re all at a different point in our journey and experience level. And certainly, we all have a different why. For me to just give you a list of five steps to get out of a workout rut would be remiss.

This time of year usually gets especially sticky. We can see Spring at the end of the tunnel, but it’s mostly still Winter. We had a good kick in the pants in January, but it may be fizzling out at this point. At the same time, a lot of us are feeling like the year is flying by and we don’t have a lot to show for it yet. Meanwhile, I swear 95% of us have been fighting off colds for the better part of the last month, and that’s added resistance to getting back into GSD mode.

Or at least into getting something done mode.

And there’s your key right there: something. It doesn’t have to be everything. And while I’m actually not a huge fan of “something is better than nothing,” because I don’t always believe that’s true, in this case? When you’re feeling absolutely jammed? I’m in for it.

Here’s the truth though, which I have come to embrace a little more and be a little less embarrassed about: I’m a bit of a tough love kind of gal. I mean, I’m most definitely not the kind of coach to start yelling at you during a training session. But I am the kind of coach who’s going to ask you what’s going on, ask you what your options are, and then ask you why you’re not choosing any of those options. Because in most cases, you have options. And you already know what they are and how to use them. You just have to make that choice.

I’ve talked a lot in the past year about how much taking control of my choices has shaped my growth – physically, mentally, and emotionally. It was a huge realization, and it’s a recurring theme for sure. I’ve always got control over my choices, and this is part of how I deliver for my clients in every interaction.

I can choose to take some time off and sit on my buns. I can choose to start a new program. I can choose to take a walk, or just go downstairs to my home gym for a quick something workout.

I can choose to take a breather. I can choose to write for hours and dig into a project. I can choose to just send some emails and write a social media post and call it good.

I can choose to shove stuff away. I can choose to read some personal development stuff. I can choose to try a little conversation with friends or those closest to me about uncomfortable stuff.

You have your own unique options and choices to make. I can support and guide you through them a bit, but ultimately, how you move forward is under your control.

So if you’re struggling a little bit right now, feeling a little stuck, fighting the urge to totally give up, try this: lay out all the options and opportunities available to you in the area in which you’re feeling stuck. Examine what might happen if you choose any one of those options. Then pick one, and go. If it’s not the right option and you still feel stuck, you can make another choice. You’ll never have to give up for lack of options.

Tough love, maybe. But always, always real love.

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