An exercise in enough.

enough | kourtney thomas fitness

My husband and I are prioritizing getting really aggressive with financial goals this year. We’ve had some tough conversations, I’ve built budgets, we’ve got our vision stuff tacked up on the fridge (real estate flyer from the lot we’re buying in Colorado), and a travel calendar tracking all of our trips for the year in the kitchen hallway.

You could say it’s getting serious.

I’ve always been serious about money, and even more serious about saving it. But, we live in a society focused on consumerism, and it’s rare to find anyone who’s immune to that, myself included. We’re also fortunate to be in a position where we have discretionary income, and the ability to spend it on some luxury items and services. So, over the years, that free-spending-it’ll-all-be-fine attitude creeps up on you.

Over time though, and especially as I have become more attuned to minimalism and what it means, how it relates to me living my Big Life, I’ve gotten increasingly anxious about excessive consumption and possessions. Like, sometimes, physically anxious. As you already know, I regularly purge, and I don’t keep extra stuff around. I’m very clear on the difference between want and need, and I’m very good at controlling any urges around that. I find no joy in the newest, coolest thing, or continually chasing status through material possessions. My phone is just fine, thankyouverymuch, and so is my car.

Timely then, a fabulous conversation I had recently with one of my extraordinary and wise-beyond-her-years friends. She, too, is struggling through her own issues around money. Ups and downs in the past few years, trying to figure out the right system, trying to live her life, trying to make sure she’s taking care of herself. You know, normal stuff we’re all trying to figure out.

We got to talking at a weekly get-together, and she casually mentioned she had taken some time over the weekend to do a little journaling activity. She was all, “Yeah, no big deal, I just wrote down what I have enough of. Like, I have enough sweatshirts. I have enough jeans. I have enough boots. I have enough technology. It really helped me figure out what I have and where I’m at and what I really don’t need.”

Did your jaw drop? Yeah, mine too. Totally big deal!

How simple is that?! How incredible is this exercise? I have enough ____________. That’s it. Repeat as necessary.

I immediately did the same thing:

I have enough clothes. (Lumped that one in because it’s more than enough of everything.)
I have enough workout clothes. (But this deserves special emphasis because holy cow don’t anyone ever let me buy anymore until something busts a hole.)
I have enough bags and luggage.
I have enough accessories.
I have enough coats.
I have enough kitchen equipment and gadgets.
I have enough outdoor gear.
I have enough motorcycle gear.
I have enough art.
I have enough notebooks.
I have enough towels.
I have enough home décor. (Except for a finite list of items to finish the new house, which are included in our budget.)
I have enough reading material.
I have enough technology. (I particularly love this one. It’s an easy trap to fall into.)

HOT DAMN, I HAVE ENOUGH!

I am literally, physically excited by this exercise. It makes it so easy to see so much more clearly everything you already have. Taking a few minutes to walk through your space and do this is huge. Having this list to come back to anytime you’re trolling amazon.com or wandering through a store somewhere…it’s an absolute game-changer. I have spent zero dollars on non-necessities (fixed expenses, groceries, bills, savings) since I’ve done this exercise.

And I mean, yeah, it’s awesome for getting a handle on material possessions and consumerism tendencies. But what about using the idea for other stuff?

I have enough love.
I have enough beauty.
I have enough success.
I have enough clients.
I have enough business.
I have enough friends.

You name it, I have it. Ten minutes doing this exercise, and I’m realizing my life is fucking overflowing with all the things that I want for myself, and none of the things that I don’t. Which, by the way, you could totally flip and modify a little for further benefit:

I have enough negativity.
I have enough shame.
I have enough obligations.
I have enough fear.

Don’t need any more of that stuff! Now I know. Now I have a tangible reminder.

We talk a lot about gratitude these days, and we talk about personal development, and journaling, and tools, and all of this great stuff. But so far, no worksheet, book, activity, whatever, has been as impactful as this list of things, stuff, I have enough of. It’s huge and eye-opening and super practical in real-time for the financial goals piece, and that is really cool. But what I especially like is how applicable it is beyond that too. So simple. So powerful. So worth doing.

I invite you to make your list of enough. See what you find. See what happens in the next few weeks after you create it. I bet it will be equally as magic for you as it was for my friend and me.


I’d love to hear about your enough list! Share with me in the comments below, or hook up with me on email. We go through a lot of cool, in-depth exercises like this in the Build Your Big Life Coaching group – which starts real soon! Check it out.

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  • AJS

    On one hand, this really speaks to me as a mechanism to combat consumerism. However, how do you reconcile this with a desire for personal growth or ambition? Are we then no longer aspiring for greatness and thus are settling for mediocrity?

    • Kourtney Thomas

      I’d challenge you that you answered your own question there. Do you really think this encourages settling for mediocrity? Or does it, perhaps, encourage critical thinking and combine with an abundance mindset to consider being grateful for what we have, and thoughtful about what we’d like to add to our lives? Personally, I think it’s a great way to find balance in examining the levels of what’s right for us personally and professionally, and learning what steps to take if we decide we do, indeed, have further room for growth. But I think it’s a mistake to constantly chase that greatness without ever taking a look at the greatness we already have. In my experience, this exercise, this mindset, has never once had me in the space of settling for mediocrity. Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I love this conversation.

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